Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have all the luck, while some people seem to always struggle? Everyone knows someone who is always needing a helping hand. No matter how much you try to help them out, they always end up in the same place they were before help arrived. Have you ever looked at who their friends were? Who are they going to to get advice from? I was talking to a friend of mine the other day about this and he told me something that just made the truth of what he said so surreal. He told me, and I quote “Never take advice from someone you wouldn’t trade places with.” Now I know there are some people out there who might argue this little nugget of knowledge, but for argument sake lets explore that saying for just a minute.
When you are in a situation where you are searching for advice, Who do you go to? Is it someone who looks at both sides of the coin or someone who will side with you even if you are in the wrong. In my own experience, I have been told I was wrong about a situation I was in or the way I was dealing with it. I may not have liked the fact that they didn’t side with me but I’m glad they were honest with me. Does the person whom you went to have issues of their own? Are they struggling financially? Do they always seem to be dealing with the same thing over and over again. I don’t know about you, But if I’m going for advice I want to go to someone who has their house in order. If you know what I mean. If you are trying to make a change in your life, Why would you go to someone who is in worse shape than you? That wouldn’t make sense.
So with that thought in mind, Lets turn that thought over to having your own business.
In business you want to learn from the best right? You want your “Go to guy” to be someone who is knowledgeable in the field they are in. Or at the very least they are with an organization or business that has a lot of support and education to teach you what are trying to learn. You also want someone who you can contact and talk to. How many times have you got the run-around with a phone call. Nobody wants to deal with your problems so you constantly get transferred to someone else. This is not how business should be taken care of.
Now if you are in business for yourself, you need the same thing. You need a “go to guy”. Even if you are an authority with the business you are running, you still need advice from time to time. So who do you go to? I have learned over the years to find positive people who has a great outlook on life. They are happy with their life and love to help others get to the place in their life that they are searching for. Lets face it, I may be an authority at certain aspects of my business but have a weakness in other areas. So Its nice to have people who are willing to help you out.
So here comes the moment of truth
I’ve told you the type of people I go to for advice. I’ve discussed the type of people you probably search out for advice. So let me ask you a moment of truth question. Are you the type of person that others come to for advice? Do people value what you have to say? Do you tell them what they want to hear just to keep them as a friend? When you do give someone else advice, Is it advice that makes them want to act out in revenge towards someone else? That’s not healthy. Keeping a positive attitude and realizing that their are two sides to every coin is how I combat every situation I’m in. Realizing that the only way I can truly help them is to consider what they are saying and never being quick to judge the situation before processing what I have just heard. There has even been times that I have been listening to a friend tell me whats going on in their life and asked for advice and I’ve had to tell them to let me think about it and get back to them with my thoughts.
One more thing to consider when helping someone out. I have went to people for advice about a situation and they have acted like their way was the only way. If I decided to choose another way, I would get the “I told you so” reply if my decision was the wrong one. Dont be like that towards other people. When someone comes to me for advice either about business or personal I tell them what I think, then give them my suggestions. I may even tell them what happened in my life through a similar situation. But always remember that all you are trying to do is help them with YOUR advice, wisdom, and suggestions. It doesn’t mean that your way must be followed.